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Started this blog during the last few weeks of SEM1(AY2014/15) cos' i regained interest in blogging. I blog about anything - news, social issues, music - but mostly about my university life :) Hope my posts will help you to make better life (and module) choices! Currently a Sociology Major. Still fresh. xD
To show genuine interest in everyone you meet and learn from the, we all have something special to offer.
written on Sunday, 9 November 2014 @ 04:41 ✈
That is one of my life mottos. But sometimes it hard to be like, "F' yes" to everybody, although you really wish you could. Sometimes its just awkward. Or that you're emotionally/physically drained. But everyone you meet definitely has something you can learn from, if you show genuine interest and make effort to talk to them. Everyone has something special to offer. Sad thing is, sometimes i just suck at making conversations, especially in groups, and i tend to be lukewarm to everyone.
This article i stumbled upon on Facebook resonates with me and i think everyone should check it out!
Especially this part:
"The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.
Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate. So get on it. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with everyone who breathes in your direction. It just means you need to take responsibility for your ability to connect with the people you are meeting.
The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them. If all of the people you pursue give you a mild responses, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself. Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you? If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work. Build yourself into a person others would say “Fuck Yes” to.
And this is the ultimate dating advice lesson — man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real dating advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to con somebody into sleeping with you, dating you, even marrying you. But you will have won the battle by sacrificing the war, the war of long-term happiness. "
I know sometimes we just can't click with some people, but have we really tried talking to them? People tend to not "live the moment", thinking that "I would be better off if i'm at ____" , "This is awkward, i shouldn't have came." "If only i could _____" , "If i knew that would happen i would've ____"
yada yada yada .. there is no way to turn back time so just make the best out of what you have.
I'm guilty of that too and i'm sure that we all do that in some point of our lives, but since you have read this, i hope that whenever you think in that direction, signal to yourself to STOP and make the best use of your time in what you're (stuck at) doing now. And if you don't like it, don't repeat it. Sounds easy but i know its tough to do so sometimes.
My takeaway, and what i live by too: Everyone's going through their individual life hurdles so be kind to everyone you meet, you never know how big their troubles are.
Here's something to lighten da mood and relieve your mind HAHA:
Recently discovered this really talented local band! :)
To show genuine interest in everyone you meet and learn from the, we all have something special to offer.
written on Sunday, 9 November 2014 @ 04:41 ✈
That is one of my life mottos. But sometimes it hard to be like, "F' yes" to everybody, although you really wish you could. Sometimes its just awkward. Or that you're emotionally/physically drained. But everyone you meet definitely has something you can learn from, if you show genuine interest and make effort to talk to them. Everyone has something special to offer. Sad thing is, sometimes i just suck at making conversations, especially in groups, and i tend to be lukewarm to everyone.
This article i stumbled upon on Facebook resonates with me and i think everyone should check it out!
Especially this part:
"The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.
Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate. So get on it. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with everyone who breathes in your direction. It just means you need to take responsibility for your ability to connect with the people you are meeting.
The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them. If all of the people you pursue give you a mild responses, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself. Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you? If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work. Build yourself into a person others would say “Fuck Yes” to.
And this is the ultimate dating advice lesson — man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real dating advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to con somebody into sleeping with you, dating you, even marrying you. But you will have won the battle by sacrificing the war, the war of long-term happiness. "
I know sometimes we just can't click with some people, but have we really tried talking to them? People tend to not "live the moment", thinking that "I would be better off if i'm at ____" , "This is awkward, i shouldn't have came." "If only i could _____" , "If i knew that would happen i would've ____"
yada yada yada .. there is no way to turn back time so just make the best out of what you have.
I'm guilty of that too and i'm sure that we all do that in some point of our lives, but since you have read this, i hope that whenever you think in that direction, signal to yourself to STOP and make the best use of your time in what you're (stuck at) doing now. And if you don't like it, don't repeat it. Sounds easy but i know its tough to do so sometimes.
My takeaway, and what i live by too: Everyone's going through their individual life hurdles so be kind to everyone you meet, you never know how big their troubles are.
Here's something to lighten da mood and relieve your mind HAHA:
Recently discovered this really talented local band! :)
“To put away aimlessness and weakness, and to begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment; who make all conditions serve them, and who think strongly, attempt fearlessly, and accomplish masterfully.”
- James Allen Quotes
Sometimes I wonder how people see me and what they think of me. It scares me a bit, honestly. I am sure though, that what they think of me,
what they think my life is, is a complete misperception. I have always tried to show myself as a carefree person, as someone who wont get bothered
because of public judgements. I am sure my friend and family think there is nothing going wrong in my life, that I do not worry enough, that
I am always happy. And I am sure they probably somewhat hate me for it because, lets admit it, there is nothing worse than seeing someone
who is life seems so perfect while yours is a complete mess. Truth is, I have become an expert at pretending. I think we are all experts
or at least we are getting there.
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